Whatever it is, I’m here to offer some thoughts to help you heal, survive and live with your parents for the few more years you have left under their care. Or hey, you might even live in the States or Britain, but still have experienced this kind of parenting style.
You could be in Saudi, Egypt, Iran, Iraq or Turkey. You may be in Nepal, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Indonesia, Singapore, Vietnam, Thailand, Korea, Cambodia or Laos. I had a very similar experience growing up in this kind of environment.Īlthough different today, the impact of my childhood has been scarring.Īnd it’s not just Indian people! Many Asian cultures have seen this type of abusive parenting. If you think I’m reading your mind and your life, I’m not. You’re compared to your friends, compared to your family members and compared to random Indian kids who win spelling bees, receive Harvard acceptance letters or get nominated to a federal judgeship. Told you’re not loved, not wanted, not worthy and that you do not make your parents proud. Yelled at, screamed at, compared to others, verbally assaulted, bullied, threatened to be sent back to India, threatened to be sent to live with relatives. You’re not good, not good enough and something is inherently wrong with you as a person.
There’s something wrong with your mind, weight, height, or even skin color!! You’re unworthy, incompetent, useless and dumb. You’re told that it was your parents’ ill fate to have given birth to you. You’re told that you are the result of bad karma from a past life. You’re told that you shouldn’t have been born or that it would be better if you were dead. You’re called names (including animals like “donkey” or “cow” and other animals found in Southeast Asia) and often the worst insults imaginable. No, you’re not being beaten (some of you are) or starved (some of you are) or locked up in solitary confinement (some of you are), but you are being emotionally beaten down every single day of your life. (And even adults who survived a detrimental childhood) Yes, those of you who suffering in the care and control of their parents. ( I write this for you with love and understanding, compassion and hope for healing) On June 10th, Wholesome Memers posted a That's Where Your Wrong Kiddo variation with the captions: "'you can't just pride flag react to ever single post you see-' 'that's where you're wrong kiddo." The post (shown below, right) received more than 43,000 reactions and 13,000 shares within a day.This post is dedicated to all the Indian kids out there who are being raised by over-bearing and abusive parents. The post was later shared by Wholesome Memesr, where it received more than 12,000 reactions and 1,800 shares. Facebook user, Johnny Peñazola posted an image of Salt Bae dropping Pride Reactions with the caption "Me rn w/ the new FB rainbow reaction.
The next day, users started posting about using the reaction. To access the Pride reaction, like this page." The post received more than 1.1 million reactions and 51,000 shares in three days. So we’re celebrating love and diversity this Pride by giving you a special reaction to use during Pride Month.
On June 9th, the group posted a message (shown below) to Facebook regarding how to access the reaction, "We believe in building a platform that supports all communities. The reaction, however, could only be used after users have liked Facebook's group.